This list is neither aimed to be exhaustive nor as a set of rigid rules or a prescription
of good luck per se! Too often in Christian History as for many others; a genuine
move of God's Holy Spirit, bringing revival, renewal and new life, can become captured
and manipulated; 'hi-jacked' even, if it were possible and exploited by some at expense
and in a spirit of inequality; which mistakes 'authority' for 'license'. From a Christian
viewpoint, in all 'statements of belief and doctrine'; we need to remember that Christ
is the centre; He, in Biblical terms of 'Emmanuel' - God with us, verily God, verily
man at one and the same time (see John Chapter 1 for more on this from a mainstream
Bible like New International Version, Good News, Revised Standard, Jerusalem, King
James) and you get the window of what God is like in the God made Man, Jesus Christ.
The whole point of the cross is that of His Ministry of Reconciliation ( 2 Corinthians
Chapter 5, verses 5-21 for example). If you agree sin separates man from God and
mankind from each other and so on, then the facilitation of the right of every person
to turn back to God, confess, repent, believe in the cross and what it means and
to invite/respond to God's initiative in time and space, to invite him into our lives
and enjoy the relationship He wishes us to have with him - worship, prayer, intimacy,
peace of mind, reassurance, comfort in sorrow and eternal life and much, much more,
including fellowship in a new way with His people and all other's is exciting, life
changing, inspirational at best, and in intrinsically absolute terms as a bonus!
Daily life bring uncertainties and many trials of one sort or another and Christians
are not immune from this and thus 'Churches', made up of 'people', are and do reflect
this 'susceptibility to fallibility'; albeit our righteousness is that God himself
has provided in Jesus for us, which we by faith put our trust in him. Thus, that
His grace is sufficient unto salvation and that we cannot earn our way to heaven
or into God's 'good books' (see Romans Chapter 3 verses 10-20 for example). We are
to, rather, accept we can never earn or deserve God's approval ourselves by our own
merits, and that it is our response to God, our relationship with Him, which informs
any changes. He makes the differences, not us first and foremost. Thus He is Lord,
because He alone initiates changes for the better and as God, only he really can,
because as divine, he goes beyond us (see Psalm 102 for a meditation of God's seeing
and knowing all, we for our part are to look to him, the pride of man, seeks to ape
and take, usurp God's rightful sovereign role, which shows the pride and folly of
much of mankind's endeavour and missed chance for real communion with God through
Jesus Christ, but God's offer is still there today! See Hebrews Chapter 9 verses
11-15 of what Christ's sacrifice for us enables for us in this respect). His Holy
Spirit brings awareness of ourselves, others and Himself and a growing conviction
on the need to search, go forth, read his word, make contact with a local Church,
ask searching questions on life, meaning and respond as God informs, shows and prompts
us. We are called and we respond. He alone is our real security, strength and His
power alone sets free, informs fruit of compassion and mercy, trickling through society,
as the Jesus of the Bible captures hearts and convicts people that the poor do matter,
that inequality is a sin, that greed is a poor investment and waste of time and life
opportunity, that sharing and forgiving, brings healing and much joy and so on (see
Romans Chapter 3 verse 4 and Luke Chapter 16 verses 19-31).
Worship such a God who does bring such fruit as a bi-product of relationships down
the ages with him, makes it so important every generation is told the Great Story
and allowed to find an expression of praise and form of expression that is meaningful
and relevant, honours God and His ways and is flexible enough to allow the Holy Spirit
to on the one hand, reveal the character, power and majesty of the Almighty and on
the other, be practically and inclusively tangible in acts of love, truth, honesty,
repentence, justice for all and laws which judge not on sizes of wallets or 'whose
who'; but rather because like Isaiah Chapter 10 verse 1-4; God informs our hearts
to see his and as 'heirs' love our Heavenly Father and out of love, obey, submit
and strive for everyone to be seen as God sees them, friend or foes; as someone Jesus
thought worth dying for - Jews and Palestinians, for example! That is a challenge;
but God inspires, God provides, God makes the big changes, as we do the relatively
small things - what would we wish for ourselves…? Do unto others too = all others
= God's way! See Matthew Chapters 5-11 for a main body of Jesus' teaching on the
sort of fruit we might hope to see emanating from our relationship with him, and
the signages of scope for continued refinements, individually and corporately manefastationally!
Sexuality has been a big controversy in our day as any other and homosexuality, a
key focus of western Christianity in particular. People want and demand precise answers,
but reality of daily context informs we have 'knowledges' of essential right and
wrong; living it and doing it, can be influenced by many factors, many of which are
not necessarily our own making. For example there's a huge difference between consent
and forcing someone's will. Jesus, in the Lord's prayer (Matthew Chapter 6 verses
9-14 'Our Father…') in King James' version 'And forgive us our debts, as we forgive
our debtors' - can our financial institutions help themselves by cancelling debts
and starting again, putting this principle into practise from the front? Likewise,
if someone intrudes upon us, that is a 'trespass', but if we invite or conjoin, it
is a shared responsibility, before, during and afterwards and God's love, forgiveness
and salvation is for all 'sinners' of all kind and the exceptional expenditures of
regard, time and 'management' obsession within the Houses of God to this matter of
same sex 'potentiality', let alone reality, not only wastes what resources we could
otherwise have deployed elsewhere; but goes against the steer Jesus gives for all
sin, as he expresses in Matthew Chapter 9 verse 13 ''But go and learn what this means:
'I desire mercy, not sacrifice.' For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners."
Maybe the western, especially so called 'radical' Christianities obsession on naval
gazing over inequality as a selected focus, of individual punity and surveillance
over corporate corruption and mandating wars for oil by refusal to give up on any
convenience which costs those with power, authority and management ivory tower views
of 'it goes with the job'; indicates the perilous misapprehension of the corporate,
professionalised 'chain' model of Church we have, whereby it views 'real sinners'
as 'other' and 'alien' and not to have within it's midst, or at least those who are
honest and believe enough to 'confess', even if they cannot tow a line of perfect
conformity 'straight off'! In short the sense one has is of a take from George Orwell's
Animal Farm Book statement by a pig of ‘all [sins] are equal, some are more equal
than others.’ [] brackets mine. - does that reflect what we do/practise, over what
we think or would portray in image making to others? Equally we must balance this
also with John Hubbard's 'Prayer & Contemplation (Mowbrays, Oxford, 1976, page 60)
'God does not condone, he forgives'. Getting God right, is a key imperative to informing
the optimisation of our interpretation of appropriate responses to Him and thus our
dealings with others. No rocket science or even doctorates in child psychology, see
Mark Chapter 12 verses 28-34 for a quick guide of God's way for us in dynamic cordoned
relationship regards of mind, attitude, spirit and we can surely assess if that is
not the case and work on that which needs probing further with a view to the tri-love
dynamic being incrementally more complete, whole, clean and inclusively Godly!
'But how does it come about that a person or a group or an entire nation is an unwitting
villain?…This is the crucial question. This is a crucial question for all of us.
Peck answers the question by citing laziness and narcissism as "the twin progenitors"
of evil.' — From Baldwin, Stanley. (1986) Bruised but not Broken, Kingsway, Eastbourne,
page 42, citing from M. Scott Peck in his book 'People of the Lie' on the Americans
and the Vietnam War, New York: Simon & Schuster, 1983).
Intercoursic sex is one penultimate expression, there are many others which do not
require intercoursic sex or even necessarily genital contact, but which do involve
the freedom, liberty by mutual consent, touch, holding, cuddling, a kiss, reassurance,
warmth, companionship, affirmation and so on, which are okay and the approach of
faith and pursuing healthy, warm and real friendships which can be emotionally and
other 'messy'. This, even within marriages and so on/family life. None the less,
are an essential part of our growing up, finding cooperation in adult life, making
'lip service' or 'token belief', live, real and dynamically more authentic. With
God as The Good Shepherd (see Ezekiel Chapter 34 and John Chapter 10 for example
- see also Romans Chapters 9 and 11 for bridging between these two Chapters and that
of the tenets of Old and New Testament as to the 'people of God' narrow and wider
continuum and how we can believe, but can also come under the danger of presumption
upon God and possible signages when that has become the case and the need to realign
to what He is doing now, not yester-year per se, even though, God is always the same.
Theology gives us a tool box to handle these issues of several things being possibly
contradictory, but none-the-less true at any one time!). We often know when we've
gone beyond a boundary, and then we do need to confess, repent and ask/trust God's
sufficiency of grace, his love and healing to help us learn from mistakes, pursue
more rewarding and rounded same and opposite sex relations, be less self centred
and unashamed to:
A. declare who we are ‘believers’ and the basis of our faith if people want - Jesus
- which takes spot light off ourselves and puts it onto him - and God, because all
people are made in his image and of eternal, spiritual worth. God wants his believers
to share him with others and higher or lower, as we let go of self interest and trust
God's mercy and are honest, faithful and humble, His Spirit can and often does turn
the friendship to a new dynamic - people come to Church and get saved themselves,
it separates sheep from goats and saves more wasted time and space, which can be
used for someone who really is interested if they are not at that stage. Is it not
interesting and perversely curious how recent arcs between faith and political spheres
tend to present ‘welfare’ as the variant on ills in society, not so much arms sales
or failure to correct systemic withdrawal of the alternative informant on locked-in
car culture and oil dependency values of the masse of our society and the cowardice
in leadership, power, authority and ‘management’ to lead from the front by example
of ‘sacrifice’ and ‘radial denial’ in foregoing the luxury if it informs genocide??
This too signage authenticity or shallowness in faith and the values - God’s or ours,
which we can correct in our own lives, not least by learning to share what we have,
not what we do not. See Rob Parson helpful book, (1991, ‘What they Didn't Teach Me
at Sunday School’, Hodder & Stoughton, London) on these kinds of pseudo and practical
challenge values and actions. God knows, he acts…he invites us to follow His example!
B. set a boundary, as we are able and enjoy the journey of exploring a person within
the boundary and as we enjoy the whole person, as the barriers of hostility, abuse
or mistrust come down and the personal similar needs - food, warmth, job, family,
hopes, dreams, interests and so on, we find common ground and enjoy 'that friend,
that friendship' and with others it can be another sort of configuration but with
a same boundary when sex arises - we enjoy what we may and lo, the extremes become
less and less needed as why focus on one 'all risk' thing, when you can have loads
of good, clean love, fellowship, fun and invite others too so that isn't necessary?
So often in homosexuality and faith, as any other walk, we set the standard for reform
or changes, impossibly high. Bite sizes, breaking bits down and incremental 'doing
what we can now' and nurturing the support system to enable transition 'move', exodus,
when the time is right. The 40 years in the wilderness, of God's people then, in
retrospect was a necessary pre-par-ation for what was to come, even though the wilderness,
was a painful series of trials, tribulations, pain and yet discovery, revelation
and inheritance for the hope for all nations, the mystery St Paul speak of in Romans
Chapter 11 verses 33-36. For me, if it is in love and God always loves us no matter
what, it brings hope and just to sing his praises, even with tears, without aplomb,
is liberating and universally 'free' even if persecution can follow.
C. your sexual, genital bed space should be for your husband/wife/partner and faithfulness
in relationships is what God wants; including our relationships with Him. He changes,
he forgives, he disciplines as father too, brings us back to his will, path and way
as we allow, submit voluntarily and cooperate in heart, mind, will and actions 'keep
within his veil' - child like faith, that sees the world, flesh and devil for what
they are and sees something higher and better, which allows God to lead and change
us, to serve Him in that extended love-kingdom and carry on the work Jesus did on
earth when he was here in bodily form.
In short, get over sexuality, there's so many other issues, wants, needs, desires
and lost people who need our love, help, prayers, hospitality, care, support, friendship,
listening ears, sharing, money and adopted fathers, mothers, brothers and sisters;
that as we follow Jesus we look back and think 'why on earth did we ever think and
want such myopic ends for such poor results, when these treasures in heaven are so
much more satisfying'? People who are stuck, being arms sales, tobacco, car culture,
idolatry, addictions of all and any kinds, need our love and sympathy, as we would
have if in those shoes we disdain, indeed disdainful attitudes by 'radical Christians'
is all too evident of a need to see ourselves as 'just as bad' and come together,
and share hearts, minds, lives, loves and faith and invite the lost, lonely and unpopular
to join the fellowship for fellowship, higher and/or lower spec! I am not saying
we do not go over boundaries in same sex or other relations, what I am saying is
there is forgiveness for those who truly know it is wrong as per all other sin and
even within our particular 'sins' we can set boundaries and remain faithful within
that, which gives empowerment and other options to modify, adapt and lead/be led
to enjoy an alternative. But remember is it free-will? Is it consensual? What are
you doing, what is happening and is it your real need or a 'quick fix' a cheating
on true love, life and affirmation you desperately want and need in your deepest
inner being, but from Church or family or friends or even a tired expression of your
faith, just ain't happening, being accommodated….is not on the worlds agenda and
because of pressure to and from the world in the corporate expression of faith, is
the wrong place to look for it anyway? You may find the book by Rita Bennette, (1982)
'Emotionally Free'*, Kingsway, Eastbourne useful as a basis for putting a few minutes
aside every time at a time which suites you, to think jot down and pray and plan
your way out and to more of 'God's best will for you' - His promised land, flowing
with the milk and honey of what really matters, adds up, is authentic, is true, is
whole some, bless Him, others and where you love yourself and are knowing love for
you 'intrinsically' as God intended in his tri-way love command structure predicatures
upon which all other commands start to find their pattern of fit - if you love people,
do you really wish to kill them?! * Don't be put off by the title 'Emotionally Free'
as I was and kept the book hidden for nearly 20 years by negative association. Rather
'Emotional Wholeness and Spiritual Vibrancy' seem to be the main charactreistical
benefits running through the book. Susan Jeffers in her very useful, practical help
book (1987) 'Feel The Fear and Do It Anyway, Arrow Books, is also a key text for
combing through personal and contextual bedevilments and making small but decisive
personal actions; which empower, bring more freedom objectively to grow up, live
and be, be more what God wants = truth in the inner parts, not cultures of lies.
Change starts with us, it is, to take from the Depression Alliance motto 'A thousand
miles starts with a single step…' but a step (action) none-the-less, however faltering
and small, better than sin predicated as a fall out of gross discontent and disillusioned
waste?
D. Much objection to the constant tirade of telling what many people suspect on sexuality
and Christianity, may not be so much over ultimate 'rights' and 'wrongs', but that
fact that there's so many other 'wrongs' which don't get the same focus of time.
passionate sermons, energy, surveillance, punity and fixational attack/marginalisation.
This imbalance is a 'wrong' itself, as many times God's word makes it clear 'God
does not show favouritism (James Chapter 2 verses 1- 13). Moreover if what I do with
my lifestyle habit, however majority driven, trend informed and 'convenient' even
from 'sharing' or a 'professional' point of view, knowing it mandates other severe
'ills' like ill-gotten, killing, stealing and proliferated suffering including more
creation of orphans, widows, displaced, fatherless and much else - am I acting in
love, following God by continuing in that vein because the immediate impact/implications
are 'somewhere elsewhere' and 'out there' and thus hidden relative our given society/local
theatre of operations? In short car culture requires black oil, oil is a fossil fuel,
it is a finite resource, it has spin-off pollution results, it has been abundant
in various parts of the world, including the Middle East, Iraq and Afghanistan. Yes
our presence there may be argued to be coincidental and the acts of just Christians
does not inform of itself the mandated public wide demand for x by consumption of
y in increasing numbers who consider it a 'right'. But the essence of Godly morality
surely, is that we do things because they are right, not because they are popular,
mainstream, 'normal' in the wide world's eyes or contemporary political persuasions
of rational economic theorisations of one sort or another? Even if hat were the case,
Jesus made it very clear 'we cannot love God and Money' (see Matthew, Chapter 6 verse
24). It is a clear choice, and the choice of the latter over the former, erodes our
love for one another and that means 'casualties' of various sorts at home and abroad.
'Church' sets the moral trend, takes the lead of example, sets a tone, then thinking/academia
follows that detected patterning, learning, views and debate and then wider media/public
opinion, habits and action choices informs politcal masters to legislate and 'make
a response' to. This then further shapes a nation's direction of course, higher or
lower, better or worse; but the Church is pivotal in that 'spark' and God's Spirit,
galvanises, ignites and informs the focus of the Church if it allows…more of that
'free will' we keep hearing about! Clearly the nature of intent, outcomes, correction
and adaptation and spaces informant as to whether genuine or not, is a key to authentic
signalling or another 'hidden' agenda, presented as one thing, when tools of engagement
are that what the picture says on the box = more than a surprise for the unsuspecting,
hence our need to seek, find and engage with God, His word and The Faith ourselves.
In any other alk of life, you would surely insist upon that right, why not with 'faith'
also?
E. That people get saved is God's sovereign grace and work alone, Christians are
called to serve God in His Mission, not their own and that means His way - love first,
people first, service and sacrifice and trustworthiness, faith, generosity, forgiveness
and much else - worship and The Bible as key planks in God's tool-kit for us in that
theatre - makes sense from his stand point and we enter in with worship, because
Jesus has provided that way (scriptures). The amazing thing is, that by doing this,
we are loving God too, so nothing is wasted in that sense, as to which was we start!
F. This is not complicated, it does not in the first instance rely on others, as
we all have a responsibility before God to work it out for ourselves and take action/be
responsible for the decisions, reactions and how we respond to Jesus, His Cross and
our affiliations for or against, following or not, believing or rebelling and working
through difficult issues, or denying them/shying away from facing God's reality or
creating a fantasy to avoid responsibility or engaging on what really matters. Punity
without proportionality criterion, is immoral as it fails to exercise discretion,
it insists others do, or rather have been seen not to be!